I hit my three month mark at my job, which meant it was time to fill out the necessary paperwork for benefits, health insurance, dental insurance, eye insurance, life insurance, etc. This would have been a huge issue for most trans people, I'm sure. I've heard many horror stories surrounding it, how to go about it, what to say. I'm lucky because everyone in my office knows I'm trans and they are very supportive.
So, when it came time to fill out all of the papers, I was able to openly explain to my employer how I needed my papers filled out and I was able to get some of their advice on it as well. I put myself as male for dental, vision, and life insurance, and female for the medical insurance. But I had questions about the life insurance and my boss was able to help me determine which sex to put for that because she knew the way that that stuff got handled. The problem is, my driver's license says that I'm male, but my passport and birth certificate say female. So, if I were to die, (G-d forbid), I had to ask my boss which paperwork the insurance company would be checking, and she said they would only need my driver's license, so we went with male on that one.
The medical one needs to stay as female because I still need access to female related health services and that would definitely not be covered under male insurance stuff.
Overall, it was a painless process and it was an eye opening experience for some of the staff in my office. I feel like they gained a greater awareness of how to deal with trans employees should we have another one join our team.
Other than that, I'm preparing myself for the wedding in Miami the best that I can. Nothing much has changed on that front. My plane ticket is booked and I will be in attendance.
Love life is good, well great actually. Jordyn is the kind of girl I could only have thought existed in dreams. She's an amazing support to me in every way possible, and then there's the love connection on top of that. So, I'm happier than I've ever been in that department.
In other news, I got a facebook message from some girls I went to overnight camp with when I was 12. They seem to have no idea that I've transitioned as the message was addressed to "the girls". They want to have a reunion in Pittsburgh sometime in the near future. I need to respond to that message and let them know that I've transitioned, and also whether or not I'd like to go to this mini reunion. I have mixed feelings about it. I think it would be nice I guess, but I seriously haven't seen or talked to some of them in over 10 years. I'll have to feel it out and see.
Those are the major updates for now.
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